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Can we put an end to the hypocrisy? A man criticizing a woman for her body, hiding behind that phrase, is not the “nice guy” he thinks he is.
When criticizing another person’s body, for whatever reason, we take a stance of superiority. When we do that in public, it is humiliating, reducing the person in question to a target, and there is no excuse for it. I understand we live in a confusing time, where everyone has a saying in other people’s business, be it a vaccine or their religion, their upbringing, or their eating habits.
But hiding behind a noble incentive or a cause is no excuse. Boundaries SHOULD exist.
The excuse and noble incentive, in this case, is the audacious claim to care for the other person’s health, when in fact the motive for a man to judge and criticize a woman’s body is his desire or lack of desire for her.
Whether he is the boyfriend or a stranger, that man is basically saying: I do not like your body, but I am too coward to admit it, so I hide behind my “caring” of you, and your health.
The only problem is, we don’t care. And if we do, we should not.
Let’s be clear. In case you are in a relationship, these examples should take away any confusion:
You don’t go to someone’s house to tell them their food is too fatty, just because it's free and offered to you. You do not criticize a gift. Yes, a woman is lending you her body, she is still able and capable of removing herself from the equation. You do not…
